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Out of our hands

Thank you all for praying for L and her situation. It appears that a difficult choice was removed from her hands.

To summarize, purposefully vague as it may be, a young mother had just yesterday found that she was carrying a little girl with DS. She came to one of the forums that I frequent, and we encouraged her as we often do with moms dealing with a new diagnosis. Her husband was not in favor of her continuing to carry the baby and gave her an ultimatum. She was having to choose between her child and her husband, and she felt she could not give up her marriage. Her appointment was today, but she has reported now that as of late this morning her baby's heartbeat is not to be found. She has had many losses previously, but I'm sure that doesn't make this one any easier. She wanted her little girl, but her family all around was pressuring her to end her pregnancy. I'm sad that that precious baby didn't have a chance to come bring a bright light to their world.

There are many ways to look at this type of situation, and I'm not interested in a heated debate here. But I must say that I'm so disappointed that this kind of situation exists. That families would function in this way. I pray for healing for L and her sons and her marriage. I would have alot of tough things to think about in her position.

Again, thank you for your thoughts and prayers. Answers aren't always what we want, but prayers never go unanswered. We will still trust.
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  1. MaggieApril 9, 2009 at 11:45 PM

    What a sad situation. Sounds like she and her family still need many prayers.

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  2. Wendy's MomApril 10, 2009 at 2:20 AM

    OHH RK I did not see your prayer request until tonight. I am so sorry to hear that your new friend had to choose between her marriage or a baby with DS. I am sure she is having a horrible time tonight and my heart goes out to her. Unfortunately there needs to be a lot more awareness of DS in this world.

    I will be praying for your friend but also you. You are a great friend to have stood by this woman. God Bless You!

    Love,
    Sheila

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  3. CathyApril 10, 2009 at 6:59 AM

    My comfort in situations such as this is knowing that this precious little child is in the arms of our Lord!

    I will continue to pray for this family.

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  4. MOMApril 10, 2009 at 1:05 PM

    I will continue to pray for L's healing, both physically and emotionally. The God of all comfort eased her load and made the choice for her. I will also pray for her husband and family's hearts/souls to be opened.

    I'm proud you are there for her.
    I Cor. 1:3,4

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  5. SandiApril 10, 2009 at 2:47 PM

    Well darn. That's just a tough situation. Prayers heading her families way to soften their hearts for all children. I'm sure that similar situations will come up for this family again (perhaps not Ds but maybe another type of birth defect, or learning disability) and with prayer they can come together and realize that all children are perfect.

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